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Gia has had at least three colds in her short life, all lasting around a month. Right now she’s had one for two weeks accompanied by a bad hacking cough which keeps her from sleeping. For several nights now she’s been back in bed with me nursing all night. She still goes down at 7pm, and we haven’t had to do any sleep waves since the first week of sleep training. Since getting sick she at least was making it until 11 or midnight, but last night she was awake at 9:15 pm, right as I was drifting off to sleep! She nursed pretty much all night. Then tonight we found a tooth cutting through her top gums! No wonder she nursed all night last night, and anytime I took my nipple out of her mouth (sorry kid, sometimes I have to go to the bathroom for ten seconds) she screamed bloody murder.

My whole body hurts from side-lying all night – back, hips, shoulders. I know it’s because the poor girl is sick and teething, but it’s really getting to me again. J suggested I call in sick this morning but I had a busy schedule and dragged myself in. I have faith that her sleep will go back to one night waking soon though, since the nights she feels okay she still sleeps 8-9 hour steer his, then another 3-hour stretch. I’m just trying to hang tight.  

at the doctor… again


I do feel good overall though. There is so much stress at work and I miss my family, but I’m also feeling lighter in a lot of ways.  Our routine with Gia is comfortable and I think we’ve gained a lot of confidence in parenting both separately and as a couple. Gia is just adorable and I love her so much. She’s smart and notices everything. She laughs like crazy. She eats leafy green vegetables like a champ. She crawls and knocks over blocks. Taking care of her (except at night) is just so fun and amazing!

Gia was seven months last Friday. It was also the day our angel baby was due. In some ways, it feels like Gia is her and they are the same.


eating Korean food – she went after those chopsticks, even greens with spicy sauce!


roasted asparagus


natural history museum – first dinosaur!


I took a very traditional workshop on First Foods at The Pump Station which outlines a plan for how to introduce one food at a time, which foods to introduce only after one year, and how to ensure your baby doesn’t get addicted to carbs (lots of veggies, no pouches, applesauce or puffs). My Mommy & Me instructor encourages BLW and says she wishes she’d done it with her two children ten years ago though. I created a control-freak plan and printed it out for the refrigerator, but we ended up trying a combination of baby-led weaning and purée. Gia spits up more when we don’t purée her food, so I’m making those most of the time. I’ve given her pieces of fresh veggies to suck on and pieces of vegan muffin, veggie wrap and some soup and salad at restaurants, and all has been okay. We’ve also tried egg yolk scrambled with finely chopped spinach and avocado which was a huge hit. We do need purees at the ready during weekdays for quick meals and the nanny, and since Gia is 20.5 pounds she seems hungry a lot. I’m using a book called Sage Spoonfulls for ideas about which veggies to combine and how to cook them. I add a dash of olive oil – I want her to love vegetables! Here are some combos I’ve made:

Sweet potatoes & broccoli

Yams, carrots and zucchini

Red potatoes and English peas

Red & blue potatoes, parsnip & zucchini 

Oatmeal and blueberries


This bamboo steamer is awesome for making baby food!



She is just so adorable when she likes something! Some days she gobbles up a whole plate and other days she won’t touch the same food. We let her eat with her hands which basically means paint the dining room table and her face!

She also likes mango and apple purée chilled in the silicone feeder: 

On another note, I’m not pumping enough milk to keep up with her. It sucks. My freezer stash is quickly diminishing and instead of the three or four ounces I used to get each session, I now get 1.5 between BOTH SIDES. I pump before and after work with her nursing on the other side and get more, but I have to pump like its my job in order to make enough for her. My only breast freeding goals were to let her wean herself (probably when she’s five God help me) and to not use formula, since I’ve always had plenty of milk, but at this point I think we’ll need to supplement soon. I wish my body responded better to the pump. I drink lactation tea all day at work and guzzle water. I also eat oatmeal with flax for breakfast and eat two lactation cookies a day. I’d lost some weight from eating really healthy and my nanny said I shouldn’t do that yet and maybe it was reducing my supply (she breast fed three children for at least two years each) so I’ve started eating more too. The problem is really that I don’t get a letdown easily without Gia, not even with the button on the pump. Who’s had to supplement? Has anyone had to do this when returning to work?

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